As some of you people know (or could probably see from my photo gallery), most of my friends are female, especially the closest ones who know me best, and vice versa. Because of this, I have the opportunity to really understand them because nearly every problem they have with guys they usually rant to me. From there, I’ve sat back and observed what they’ve ranted about and can verify what they notice. On the other hand, I also have the advantage of giving them advice back, especially if I notice that a guy is being sketchy as hell… This doesn’t mean all guys are assholes. The handful of guys that I’m friends with are quite respectable, and for good reason too. After all, people do make judements about you through the people you hang out with. Anyways, I had an interesting talk with my friend Jenny on the topic of guys, who referred me to her blog on her site. Here’s an excerpt:

“Guys are @ssholes, they have no respect for women. It doesn’t matter if he is seeing someone or not, all they want is some action and no strings attached (granted, not all men are dogs, but most are). I mean, what is this world coming to? All you nice guys out there how can you allow the reputation of your gender to trashed by a few obnoxious immature males??? (Let me let you in on a secret: girls like it when you call them after you get their digits, girls are more sensitive and we have feelings, don’t take advantage of that? I hate those b@stards that take advantage of the ladies after the girls got a few drinks in her system. yes, we like some action, and just know that we are giving you a chance because we’re not completely ourselves after a few martinis, so play along, and be a gentleman and don’t disappear from our lives after one make-out session. THERE’S MORE TO COME if you’re the right one.”

Generally she’s pretty much right. Time and time again, I’ve observed (and so many other people have) that at least 80% of the guys out there are assholes. Of the remaining, 1/2 are either psycho or super puritan. That leaves only 10% of the male population that are actually dignified gentlemen. Of course these numbers are pretty much guestimates, but from what I’ve noticed from party promoting, talking with people, and living in Manhattan. Basically, I get a lot of opportunites to really observe large amounts of people’s behavior. Makes you wonder why I didn’t finish my minor in psychology… LOL

On one of my older websites, I think version 2.0, I wrote about my theory on Chakan Namja Syndrome (”chakan namja” is “nice guy” in Korean) and the Asshole Virus. Since I can’t find my old website in my box of old CDR’s I’ll just write the stuff here.

-=::[ The Asshole Virus ::]=-

My theory on the asshole virus is fairly simple. It just my reasoning on why so many assholes exist. Essentially, it’s impossible to have such a large population of men being assholes, and psychology teaches us that such behaviors are generally learned or programmed. Meaning, that they picked it up from someone else. Yes, another asshole.

Ever notice that there are guys that other guys consider “the man’s man.” Basically its that one guy out of the group of guys that all the guys worship and want to be.

Pretty much you can consider this guy the “uber-asshole.” He’s the one that rants about ever sexual conquest, flaunts cash like a mofo, drives a hot car, is rude to anyone working in the service industry (ie: retail cashiers, waiters, etc.), and he always thinks he’s money. Their story is the same: “Yeah I used to be this loser guy, but then I realized that I had the power to be better than that by doing this and that, and look where I am now. I’m da man!” Blah blah blah Essentially, this is the mothership that infects the others, and he teaches them to be assholes. The alpha dog trains the pack. This is why when you put a group of guys together, they always follow the actions of that ONE guy. Assholes breed more assholes. Although I do have to admit, at one point in my life, I wanted to be just like that uber-asshole. Since then, I know better.

-=::[ Chakan Namja Syndrome ]::=-

Then there is the nice-guy turned asshole. Essentially this is the nice-guy who’s been burned so many times by women. He has high ideals, and after each bad relationship (ie: kongjoos, gold diggers, users, pyschos), he becomes a little bit more disillusioned about his ideals and loses faith in women. This may continue until he either:
1. Hates women completely and swears them off
2. Goes through a whole phase of self-destructive behavior (recklessness, excessing drinking, drugs, risky behavior)
3. Holds loyal to his beliefs and waits, then eventually finds the right girl.
4. Gets so fed up, that he believes the propaganda that the uber-asshole has been preaching and joins the asshole minions.

#3 is extremely rare, and in my case, I was extremely fortunate to reach that point with Caroline. However, I did hit point #1 for quite some time, and was approaching the brink on #4, which would suck bigtime, since I have a few kharmic gifts (ie: I can gain most people’s trust relatively quickly) that would be insanely exploitable if it were used for evil purposes. Fortunately for me, my values stayed strong, and these gifts have NEVER been used for evil purposes. So if you notice, the rest of the options don’t leave much room for a good result. This is why so many assholes exist. It is the combination of these two phenomena that make the asshole population grow and infect.

I know that there’s bound to be comments on this, so I encourage you readers out there to post some comments on this topic.

PS: that Edward Song article on >iistix.com isn’t me. My name is Edmund Song dammit! Plus I don’t smoke and crap like that.